Have you tried reframing?
When I start feeling those physical feelings of nervousness just before a big keynote, I remind myself that it is just my body’s way of preparing for optimal performance. This is approximately what I heard, popular keynote speaker, Michael Hyatt say in a podcast years ago. I thought it was an interesting tip so I tried it and it worked. Focusing on the nervousness used to make me feel small, worried, and very afraid of making a mistake. Now if I start feeling the physical feelings of nervousness before a big presentation I use Michael Hyatt’s trick for reframing. Since this is my body’s way of preparing for optimal performance I feel in control, confident, ready to give to the audience. Logically I realize this is a trick of the mind, but it works.
Since reframing worked for me as a speaker I started experimenting with it in other parts of my life.
-Instead of feeling hassled by dealing with a sometimes crabby 6-year old I try hard to think of these moments as teaching opportunities.
-Instead of being upset while deleting a blog post that is not quite good enough I try to think of it as the necessary draft needed before I get to a much better one.
-When one of my proposals for member research doesn’t move forward with a perspective client I know that I’m one proposal closer to one that will move forward.
I hear others talk about reframing in their professional lives too.
What association CEO wants to have conflict with their board president? One CEO I recently interviewed does. She looks at conflict as a good thing. Through conflict, or working to resolve conflict, the team can actually form greater bonds. For her the sooner there’s a conflict between her and the board president the better. Conflict is bad. This association CEO has reframed conflict and realized that conflict is actually good.
A friend of mine was recently laid off from her big corporate job. Her mantra became “and so the adventure begins”. Instead of dwelling on the loss of her job she reframed the situation and started genuinely looking forward to seeing what became of her new professional future.
Sometimes it feels like associations are being attacked from all sides. Sometimes we have days that are just bad, where everything seems to go wrong. Sometimes we are struggling with seemingly unsolvable problems. After awhile we become worn out, run down, and run over. When the world is against us reframing may help….
….. and so the adventure begins!